tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6460972423585207546.post697228701004259132..comments2024-01-29T21:11:46.240+05:30Comments on Learn and Lead: Dealing with Office BullyManish Mohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14018676072606741106noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6460972423585207546.post-62187230677080891902013-10-22T02:54:49.381+05:302013-10-22T02:54:49.381+05:30Excellent post. Nobody needs to deal with an offic...Excellent post. Nobody needs to deal with an office bully. Our <a href="http://www.alphapointtechnology.com/dcim-software/" rel="nofollow">data center infrastructure management</a> business develops software to help data center managers better run their operations. We have certain policies in place that protects our workplace from any type of bullying. We have never had any issues.<br /><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18083533462296252640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6460972423585207546.post-46162555094176504722010-09-23T12:22:59.170+05:302010-09-23T12:22:59.170+05:30I have been looking for a comprehensive blog post ...I have been looking for a comprehensive blog post on this topic since last week. Thank you for this one. <br /><br />I have experienced corporate bullying about three years ago and I have to say that it often happens in a working environment where competition is tough. <br /> <br /><br />This is an issue that the HR must not neglect since it could affect people's performance and deliverables. They can also use <a href="http://www.intelladon.com/" rel="nofollow">cost effective training solutions</a> to help address this issue in a more thorough manner.Monohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16608781989015392052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6460972423585207546.post-25940696230284864332010-02-17T21:54:46.942+05:302010-02-17T21:54:46.942+05:30Great comments.
I have some things to add. The p...Great comments.<br /><br /><br />I have some things to add. The person may not always feel smaller or incompetent in not being able to respond wittily in such situations. Sometimes people do not want to waste their time in responding to vulgar, silly interruptions. Sometimes people have other things on their minds. Sometimes they are ready to forget and forgive if the bullying behaviour is stopped.<br /><br />All people are shades of gray. No one is perfect but goodness does not give you a license to humiliate others.<br /><br />People generally retort back and successfully control non-bullying interruptions either through words or body language. Bullying is different than that. Bullying is deliberate. A bully does not want to understand. A bully does not want friendship or even respect. A person who wants respect will respect others. A bully gets his or her pleasure from seeing people irritated by him or her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6460972423585207546.post-50661003361031113332010-02-16T14:05:39.721+05:302010-02-16T14:05:39.721+05:30WoW! A whole range of options! What more can one a...WoW! A whole range of options! What more can one ask for? <br />I could probably add a couple of questions for the person facing the problem to ask himself/herself to help choose from amongst the many options: <br />1. Do I feel smaller or incompetent not being able to respond wittily to his interruptions? This evaluation is important as our feelings/belief of ourselves feed the other's behaviour towards us. <br />2. Can I spot any goodness or quality in the other person? Each person has a value they contribute or can bring to the table -- sometimes its just hard to see. The moment we can understand the value - the equation changes.Neeraj Agarwal (on Buzz)noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6460972423585207546.post-7489374287333345972010-02-11T14:24:04.206+05:302010-02-11T14:24:04.206+05:30I am a little confused. Is this guy in your team? ...I am a little confused. Is this guy in your team? Do you have to work with him? <br />If this guy is someone you have to take along, say a team member, you need to be careful. Also, assuming that his behaviour is known to all, people must be watching how you tackle him. So do your best. You seem to be doing that. <br />If he is just another irritating colleague, why don't you ask him to take a walk?chitranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6460972423585207546.post-80704272891111015382010-02-10T23:34:41.377+05:302010-02-10T23:34:41.377+05:30I agree that there cannot be one possible solution...I agree that there cannot be one possible solution that will apply for this problem. You must look at a mix of the ways suggested:<br />1. Do discuss the problem with your boss; however, seek for advice and do not complaint. <br />2. Talk to the person concerned (in a friendly manner) about your discomfort. This might be that person's normal behavior and you might not be a specific target. The person may not behave that ways with you if you express your discomfort frankly.<br />3. In a worst case scenario, keep the data handy if you may have to talk to the HR or escalate. Also, keep in mind that the data should not be subjective. <br /><br /><br />I strongly feel that leaving the job and running away from this problem may not be the right decision if you are happy with the work. Rather handle this situation as you may face this situation anywhere you go. <br /><br />All the best!! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6460972423585207546.post-74112983313800044292010-02-05T03:14:54.196+05:302010-02-05T03:14:54.196+05:30My advice:
1. Find a new job ASAP.
2. Report the ...My advice: <br />1. Find a new job ASAP.<br />2. Report the bully boss to eBossWatch (www.ebosswatch.com) so that others can avoid working with the jerk.eBossWatchhttp://www.ebosswatch.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6460972423585207546.post-52898488580181662272010-02-04T13:08:27.418+05:302010-02-04T13:08:27.418+05:30With the limited information about the situation, ...With the limited information about the situation, I have the following to say:<br />1. At work place, this is a clear case of work place harrasment.<br />2. Probably, this organization does not make their employees aware of what such gestures can be taken as. That they may disturb someonelse, while the does may feel they are being friendly.<br /><br />I am training to be a life and work coach. I can offer to coach this individual for free [12 sessions]. In the meantime, I'd leave with some questions:<br />1. What will happen if you let this person know that his gestures are disturbing you?<br />2. I hear you say, that u r on contract, do feel this is in some way a hurdle to solving this issue?<br />3. If yes, why do you feel that way.<br />You can write to me at learningcollage@gmail.com<br />Sonia Sant<br />http://learningandprojectmanagement.blogspot.comLearning Collage- By Sonia Santhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14972412467438053390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6460972423585207546.post-80209842772713039222010-02-04T10:11:48.120+05:302010-02-04T10:11:48.120+05:30Interesting situation - but not so uncommon. I thi...Interesting situation - but not so uncommon. I think it is a good idea to have a conversation with HR/Boss. Documenting instances of inappropriate behaviour can put the conversation with his boss into a better perspective. Data always helps! Perhaps they are hearing similar stories from other employees since his poor conduct is already known. On another note, here's a post on how to manage difficult people - http://liquidlearn.com/?p=130 <br />Might be useful!Taruna Goelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13838323858110552415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6460972423585207546.post-24272370845101290692010-02-03T19:47:33.872+05:302010-02-03T19:47:33.872+05:30I like the idea of letting the environment take ca...I like the idea of letting the environment take care of him. If it's possible make sure that enough people - especially people further up the food chain who will disapprove strongly - if that's possibly. If his behavior is truly detrimental to your or others ability to work, then document the occurances so you can relate or at least explain them to the right people. Personally I don't understand why this individual wasn't put on report because of both the drunken conduct and vulgar behavior. Good luck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com